I am a guy and I have visited the site several times. I have met a few nice ladies and we have had enjoyable conversations. I have always been open about my gender and said that if they did not want me on the site i would leave. A couple have asked me to and I have complied with their requests. The way I see it is if a lady comes on here and I am the only person in the room and they want to chat, what harm is being done?